Millennials are ‘awesome’.
They are expected to accomplish so much more than we ever had to just to get into good schools, find a decent job and support themselves.
David Brooks, author of “The Road to Character”, states that in a competitive profit-driven society we tend to focus more on “résumé virtues” (skills brought to the marketplace) than on “eulogy virtues” (core values like kindness and humility highlighted at a funeral).
Clearly Millennial focus has to be geared toward “résumé virtues”. So forgive them if they sound 'boastful', 'self-absorbed' and 'entitled'. This too shall pass.
Older generations have been complaining about the work ethic of the younger generation from time immemorial. There are countless historical quotes about decline in morals and standards being a ‘modern’ occurrence. Consider this one:
“I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words. When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly disrespectful and impatient of restraint.”
~ Hesiod, 8th Century BC
Perhaps our decreasing tolerance for the shenanigans of our youth is by design – nature’s way to foster independence. When the home environment becomes less hospitable, our offspring will bail.
A word of caution though, if our expectations are too high, and we instil a feeling of ‘never good enough’ our children may not thrive in today’s increasingly competitive world.
Another thought to ponder, by criticizing Millennials are we not indirectly criticizing ourselves, or collectively, the societal values we've instilled? Do we not risk losing the respect of our children and ageing lonely?
How can we do better?
I propose that we start by treating our parents’ generation with more respect –
model what we aspire to see from our children. Forgive mom and dad for any perceived transgressions. While our parents may not have done everything right, most did the best they could at the time. Let’s express sincere gratitude – let go of the victim mentality. Every challenge presented an opportunity for our growth and transformation.
For those whose parents have passed, it’s not too late. Forgive them, recall what they did right and love them unconditionally.
Further, I propose that we start to focus more on what the younger generation is doing well. Let’s build them up so that they can excel. Those of us, who can afford to step aside to create a job opportunity for a Millennial, should do so graciously. Let us find another way to contribute. It's never too late.
The following quote, often attributed to a Native American Proverb, resonates with me:
“We do not inherit the earth from our parents. We borrow it from our children.”
It doesn’t take much to increase societal morals and standards. We have to model the change we want to see in future generations.
Perhaps it’s time for baby boomers to focus a little more on “eulogy virtues” – kindness, humility, empathy, compassion and wisdom. Let us facilitate excellence in our offspring and leave a legacy of hope and prosperity.
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