Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.
~ Erich Fromm
Most of the people who seek my care are subconsciously looking for mom.
They need a trusted caregiver.
They want to be heard.
They want to be loved.
They want guidance on optimal nourishment.
They need nurturing.
Some have experienced severe physical symptoms due to unresolved childhood wounds.
Subconsciously, they distract themselves with physical pain, to avoid emotional pain.
A few numb their negative feelings with substances that include food or alcohol.
Some make themselves big because they feel small.
Others become so thin because they believe food intake is all they can control.
And some pursue invasive cosmetic procedures no matter how naturally pretty they are.
Those who feel they are never good enough overachieve in an attempt to earn mom's love until their body screams “NO”.
I tell these young women that all will be well if they can love and accept themselves.
Letting go of the past often means forgiving. Hurt people hurt people.
The healer is within, waiting to be unleashed.
To help heal the wounds, I share the three facts presented in Kelly Howell’s guided Healing Meditation:
Your body can manufacture and administer the precise balance of chemicals that can reverse illness and cure virtually any disease. Your body possesses the innate capacity to heal itself.
Science has proven beyond doubt that the contents of our thoughts and emotions directly and immediately influence our biochemistry
We can consciously influence and direct the body’s output of healthy chemical information through meditation and other mental techniques.
For readers, I offer the following books:
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor Maté
What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey
The Mindbody Prescription: Healing the Body, Healing the Pain by John E. Sarno
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
The Slow Down Diet: Eating for Pleasure, Energy, and Weight Loss by Marc David
Repressed and suppressed emotions can make us sick over time
The maltreated child cries 'I hurt.' Unheard or unheeded, that cry becomes prophecy.
~ Andrew Vachss
Children who experience abuse or neglect seldom have a way out.
They become vulnerable when forbidden to express anger and other negative emotions. Some have to dissociate or just "be good" to survive.
Suppressing negative emotions can suppress the immune system, increasing susceptibility to infection, cancer and other degenerative disease conditions.
A loss of self-tolerance, or feeling inadequate, predisposes one to an autoimmune condition. The body attacks itself.
What if, rather than just diagnose those who are suffering, or misbehaving, we took the time to ask what happened to them?
Motherly love and compassion can heal all.
heart touching, one of the best articles. Thank you Mary!